I wanted to open the discussion. I asked a bunch of men, gay and straight, and they all immediately demurred. Shane, Jack, and Roger asked to speak to me privately about their encounters. Roger was the most open about what happened, he actually filed charges against his rapist.
Shane was the most battered. His wife weaponized the rape during their divorce and said he asked for it because he wanted anal sex with her. Then she started talking about how a grown man shouldn’t have taken a young boy on a camping trip unless he wanted something to happen. The stepson has admitted he raped Shane but everyone is acting like he’s the victim.